There's a pretty good chance that every single one of you has felt the emotional wreckage of heartbreak at some point in your life. The only thing that makes losing someone you love even greater is to experience that loss with your child. When this mother's life was turned upside down, she did everything she could to keep things together for her daughter. Little did she know, the one thing that was going to bring it all together, in the end, was the one thing that she had been avoiding for her daughter's entire life.
After Jessica Share graduated from the University of Iowa, clutching her graduate degree, she decided to jump into the world of advertising and marketing.
But soon after joining the job market, Jessica realized that she wanted to go back to school to get her Ph.D. After enrolling in the program, Jessica began to feel like there was something missing from her life.
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Sure, she had a successful career and she was furthering her education, which she was extremely happy about, but something didn't feel right.
All in all, Jessica was content with her life, but like many others, Jessica soon understood that what she was missing was a family. After a while, the opportunity for Jessica to grow was finally within reach.
You see, in 2003, Jessica, who is a bisexual woman, started a relationship with another woman.
Things moved very quickly for the couple, and before they could even realize what was happening, they were in full baby mode. They were a bit excited about their future and they felt comfortable having way more than one child. But after a bit of talking, they decided that their comfort level ended at four children, actually. They even picked out the names of the two boys and two girls that they were planning to have.
Of course, having children when you’re in a lesbian relationship isn’t the easiest thing to achieve, to say the least.
When they began to consider their options, the couple immediately decided against adoption. They felt that it was important to them that at least one of them was truly related to the child, at least for the first few children that they had.
Jessica’s partner, whose identity was never revealed, suggested that her brother-in-law could be the donor.
Jessica quickly shut down the suggestion. When she was in college, Jessica took a course about gay and lesbian legal rights. During that course, she learned that more often than not, courts choose to side with the “known” donor if the donor should attempt to get custody of the child. Her opinion was also driven by the horror stories that she had heard about children being ripped from their loving homes to live with the “known” donors, who they barely knew.